Which Pattern is Keeping you Stuck?

July 4, 2018

We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them. — Albert Einstein

Be transformed by the renewing of your minds — The Apostle Paul

Often I hear, "Thanks, but I don’t really need help or anything you offer because I know what I want to be doing and if I tried harder, I’d be fine.

But what if I told you your brain is incredibly slick and that this isn’t about will power at all?

Your brain ...
- has been carefully trained for years by your decisions,
- keeps you making the SAME decisions,
- and keeps you safe, secure, and in the same familiar pattern.

You can be thankful for a brain that works this way. It has probably kept you safe in some really difficult times.

But if you want something new it’s going to require DOING something new. And here’s the truth:

As soon as you try something truly new, you’ll be fighting your brain’s slick ways to get you back on the familiar paths it has made for you already. And since it’s YOUR brain, it’s really convincing. You’ll come up with a completely “new idea,” but it still falls into the same pattern as all the methods before.

So, how can you know if it’s a new way of being or if it’s a sneaky way your brain is going back down the same path again?

How familiar are these?

* You’ve decided you’ll just need to try harder next time.

* Your “new idea” creates a way for you to succeed while also doing it again ALL BY YOURSELF.

* You let yourself off the hook to have your dream because of depression, abuse, or some other really valid and important traumatic reason. After all, no one really understands how debilitating it is. So if you ever get past that, then you can have your dream. But not right now.

* You don’t want to tell others what you are doing to change until you start having the result.

* You beat yourself up for not using the tools you’ve already paid for to get through this and as punishment you tell yourself you have to get your money’s worth from them first before you spend money on anything else.

If you truly want to have something new and can’t figure out why you haven’t gotten it yet, it’s probably because of one or more of these lovely tactics above that your brain uses to keep you RIGHT WHERE YOU ARE. SAFE. In the KNOWN territory.

But I specialize in seeing the patterns and knowing when your slick thinking is keeping you stuck.
I help you see them so you can finally create some new trains of thought and HAVE what you want. FINALLY, ACTUALLY HAVE IT!

It’ll take doing some things you haven’t tried before.
It’ll take trust that someone else could possibly see things you don’t see.
It’ll take setting down feelings of panic about sharing the real story with someone else.

But if you choose to be BRAVE.
If you choose to TRY SOMETHING NEW HERE,
If you choose to have someone reflect back to you where your brain is kidding you,
If you are willing to TRUST and LEAP…

Then JOY, FREEDOM, and finally having some success IS POSSIBLE FOR YOU!

Success in meaningful relationships- be it kids or spouse.
Success in peaceful, consistent routines that you love.
Success in self care that helps you thrive and also not neglect your family.
Success in feeling HAPPY!

“But I have had [this condition] for so long” … Unhelpful brain pattern.

“But I don’t want to talk to someone I already know about my relationship” … Unhelpful brain pattern.

“But I don’t want to talk to a complete stranger about the details of my life” … Unhelpful brain pattern.

“But I don’t want to spend money on something before I know it will work” … Unhelpful pattern.

“But I’d feel embarrassed about” … Pattern.

“But my husband might think” … Pattern.

“But what if this makes it worse … Pattern.

“But I just should be able to do this myself … Pattern.

“You can’t tell me anything I don’t already know … Pattern.

“But what if this isn’t GOD’s will” … HUGE PATTERN.

“I’ll pray about it and if HE wants it to happen, it’ll happen” … BIG STINKING PATTERN THAT KEEPS YOU FROM HAVING TO DO ANY WORK!

I know so many of them. Have I hit on yours?

SO the question is:

What DO you want? DO you want to feel FREEDOM, finally lose weight so you can enjoy moving with your kids, or HAVE that intense LOVING relationship?

Or do you want to be right about your patterns?

I can help you get past all those lines (lies) you tell yourself that hold you back. I can help you finally see these patterns for yourself when they are disguised so beautifully and look incredibly convincing so you can finally tell them to take a hike.

I can help you get to the place where you FEEL that abundant life on a regular basis that Jesus said was possible.

It’s just a phone call away. Sign up for a complimentary call. One phone call will get the whole process started. For once, put down your patterns, trust, and LEAP.

And the leap is just a phone call. It’ll actually be one of the most encouraging things you experience that day. It’ll feel really good … relief … satisfying. What if everything you are longing for is right on the other side of it? What if the only reason you haven’t gotten there yet is because you keep resisting this step?

Listen, if you’ve made it to the end of this post, something here is resonating with you…
How do you know that this might be something that could really help you?
Because you were interested enough to read all the way to HERE.

Because THIS is hitting home. And you know it.

So take some action, right now! DO something now, while it feels clear.

Sign up for a free call.

I promise it will be encouraging and life giving. I’m a kind soul and my true heart’s desire is to help you ENJOY loving God and others, and yourself. Allow me to share your journey with you. You don’t have to do it alone.

Get on the phone.

But I’ve already had a call…
PATTERN… (Just saying…P.A.T.T.E.R.N.)

This is your life. Are you who you want to be? Let me help you get there. <3

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